finding self love

Something most girls, no matter what age, struggle with is self love. Growing up we are faced with many “idols” and “role models”. We grow up telling ourselves “I have to dress this way”, or “I need to look like this”, and I’ll be satisfied and I’ll love myself. We think that if maybe just maybe I had the latest fashion, or did my makeup perfectly, or made the popular guy fall for me then I’d feel fulfillment. And maybe this does make it for some girls. Maybe all of those things do make some girls love themselves. But I know it didn’t work for me and I know it doesn’t for many other girls. No matter how many clothes I had or how many guys I dated or how much makeup I wore, I still struggled to love myself. I was either not skinny enough or didn’t have perfect skin or didn’t have a boyfriend. As soon as I got all of that and made it all happen I realized something… I still wasn’t happy. I still didn’t feel good enough for anyone. Then I realized after I lost someone that I loved with all my heart that it was just that. I didn’t feel good enough for anyone else. I spent so much time trying to please others and not enough time doing the things that I really loved. It wasn’t until this that I realized I wasn’t living for myself. I was living for others. I finally dug deep and started dressing how I wanted, doing my makeup (or not) however I wanted. I started listening to music that I loved and acting how I wanted to act. Some of the things I do, some of the things I wear, and sometimes how I act are out of the norm and that’s okay. Because I have never been happier. And I have never been so content with being me. I finally love myself and I want to tell every girl out there, that finding self love is the best thing to ever happen to me. So instead of following the social norms or looking for love and approval in someone else, dig down deep and be you. Because I promise you will love all that you become.